About | WhollyErotic

WhollyErotic is focused on helping couples and singles live their fullest embodied life, with the best, most loving sex possible. WhollyErotic practitioners believe that by bringing awareness to the body, by being in the moment for the partner, by communicating the fears and hopes that are so easily hidden, amazing erotic power is released. That erotic power can be used to enhance relationships, emotional well-being, and even spirituality.

WhollyErotic is set up to help people experience these benefits through retreats, coaching, and video teaching.

4 Lenses into Erotic Life

Biological

One of the most basic parts of our life is often overlooked when we talk about relationships and sex, and that is our reproductive organs themselves and the hormones that govern them. If these are in short supply or not regulated properly, sex may be difficult or painful. We create a safe space to talk about this, but also to offer insights from medical technology that could help. We also talk openly about alternatives to intercourse, AND there are more possibilities than are generally known to make intercourse possible again as well.

Psychological

The big one around which most of the counseling and therapy takes place when it comes to romantic relationships. And that’s because it’s important. At a WhollyErotic offering, we take into account hurts or wounds from childhood, adolescence, or previous relationships. We will help you identify characteristic patterns that partners deploy to protect ourselves and practice new patterns that allow us to communicate effectively and safely… Situations change.

Sociological

Our social systems strongly support heteronormative monogamous marriage. This dominant social theme can shut down alternative forms of relationship patterns, gender identities, and sexual attraction. We support those in traditional monogamous relationships as well as other structures such as ethical non-monogamy or same-sex relationships. If you are curious about systems you haven’t yet explored or kinky practices, we offer open discussions in a safe way. We share communication tools for talking with existing or new partners.. But of course, it starts with self-acceptance, an important starting point for our retreats and coaching.

Spiritual

This might be a surprising one for inquirers. But it is important to us at WhollyErotic. And it doesn’t mean just neo-Tantra as a practice. It’s a whole philosophy about where divinity comes from and how to channel it. Although not everywhere in the world, in American mythos (and of the West generally), mind or reason is given pride of place. It’s fine for inventing new telescopes, but shitty for understanding how people work in ordinary life. And as a bonus, we can use the body and sexuality as a preview and path of amazing spiritual connectedness and insight

Tanya Mchale

Scott Harper

Tanya is a Women’s Health Nurse Practitioner.

She worked for many years assisting women in pregnancy, birth and postpartum and has over 30 years of experience in sexual health issues, including how menopause influences desire and sexual dysfunction.

She is an active meditator and healer and recently relocated to Northern California from Chicago.

Scott is an entrepreneur, a philosopher and ethicist, a relationship coach, a spiritual guide, and founder of a non-profit called Body2Spirit which seeks to valorize the body as a path to spiritual awakening.